Monday, November 1, 2010

The First 24 Hours

Well, what can I say? Daddy needs a lot of care--24hr care.

How we will handle this, I have no clue. We are already exhausted and have had little to no sleep. This was just the weekend, not a regular work day. Maybe this was the Lord's way of giving us what we wanted, but also showing us there is a much, much more involved than we had anticipated.

Lord, we surrender. Instruct us as to what to do.

We have an interview with an in home care agency tomorrow morning. We informed them that we need someone ASAP. Although, what we asked for is care during our work hours, we still have the night to consider.

He got very, very, very, extremely angry with me trying to help my mom change him. She made sure she kept him "covered" and all I had to do was roll him over side to side. About the third or fourth time with us doing this in the early hours of the morning (around 1:30 AM , I believe 3:00 AM and or 6:00 AM) he was fed up and very irate. We finally figured out what he was saying or at least trying to convey. He does not want or will not let ME (June), help my mom in that capacity:
 Leviticus 18:6-7 (King James Version): None of you shall approach to any that is near of kin to him, to uncover their nakedness: I am the LORD. The nakedness of thy father, or the nakedness of thy mother, shalt thou not uncover: she is thy mother; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness.
This is the only scripture I was able to find tonight, but there are a few of them them with the same tone. I remember him teaching on these types of scriptures. And when I spoke with him, this is what he is having a serious problem with.

I am sure there are some that think this is totally foolish, but I, on the other hand, totally respect my father, his beliefs and wishes. The truth is, yes, this is quite biblical. Granted, we don't have anyone else (male) to help my mom except Nick who works and goes to school. So much for having a house full of daughters. :-/ We are at a loss as to what to do and how to handle this matter. He finally agreed to allow Nick to help my mom. So that is how it is for tonight/this morning. Sigh.

We have a schedule of medication to administer as well as his tube feeding. We have to check his blood sugar, blood pressure and temperature every couple of hours, etc. He ran a slight temperature today and we had to ask my Aunt Elaine to run to the store for Tylenol because we couldn't leave the house. So yes, this is definitely an additional full time job. A job I am not sure we are able to handle ourselves. The schedule maybe too intense for our working family. I also don't want us to be so exhausted, we make mistakes administering his medication and so forth.

Jean, my sister in Virginia, said she will research and review all he may qualify for, as well as resources and/or agencies that could be of assistance for families in this predicament. I'll be the first to say, we need help. :-(  I also think we are "too close" to the situation because it is our daddy/grandfather/husband, so we are highly emotional.

Please don't hesitate in contacting us if you know of any resources or anything you think we may not be aware of. Then, I can forward any information to Jean. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you so much.


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